Coaches have breakdowns too

There’s a very common misconception that coaches are supposed to be balanced, happy souls who walk on rainbows everyday.

Oh boy, you’re so far from the truth. But I get what you mean because I would have thought the same maybe a year ago.

Yes, it’s true that coaches have an increased understanding of how emotions work, what fuels them, what causes them to detach and what evokes them. But just like everyone else when we experience our highs and lows, we let the emotions sink in. Scientific factors and logic take a backseat.

We breakdown like everyone else. Weep while writing in our journal over a cup of hot coffee. There are things which make us want to pull our hair out too. But due to increased awareness, here’s how we handle it. And I’m sharing this trick with you so that you can use strategy not just for business but also in real life.

I’d suggest you follow this step by step for getting the best results. And for all the ladies out there who want to achieve clarity and have a better lifestyle, I’d be happy to have ONE free discovery call with you and then offer a coaching package. Click here to book your slot!

• To begin, let yourself feel the emotions. Nothing good comes out of suppressing them and when you do they turn into a ticking time bomb, waiting to blast when triggered. So cry if you want to cry, get upset if you want to get upset, stay alone if you want to be left alone.

• But this cannot go on forever. Few hours, yes maybe. You should know where to draw a line. I’d draw it between 12-24 hours from the point of meltdown.

• Now it’s time to stop wallowing and start growing out of the emotion that is overwhelming you. Here’s where the strategy part comes into play.

• Recognise your needs. Dissociate yourself from what the problem is and ask some of these questions

  1) Why am I feeling so upset?

  2) What am I afraid of?

  3) What do I need? (something I’m not getting from an expected person)

• Answer these questions honestly, no one is judging you. No one is even going to look at these answers.

• People will tell you to give love, satisfaction, comfort to yourself. But I understand it is not so easy to walk that talk for everyone. It’s a process. Take it one step at a time.

• What we need for attaining emotional stability is security - focus on securing yourself. How to do that? Everyone has the best self securing mechanism available. We just don’t use it. Understand that there is only one person who is going to be with you from the moment you are born to the moment you die - its not your parents, your siblings, your partner or your close friends. It’s YOU yourself.

• Don’t bail on yourself when you know you need your support the most.

• Show up for yourself the way you expect others to do it - invest in your favorite activities which will help you grow, take care of your body like it is a holy shrine, make and eat delicious (but nutritious).

• Moments of weakness either make or break people. Don’t be the person who grabs alcohol instead of a calming herbal tea. You know what is good for you. By self sabotaging you will only make it hard for yourself.

• Maintain this for a week. Every day, wake up and make a choice to choose what is going to be better for you. I’ll give you some examples.

  waking up and gyming > sleeping in and wallowing

  protein rich breakfast > last night’s pizza/ skipping meals

  herbal tea or black coffee > alcohol and sugary drinks

  working with a purpose > spending your day binge watching Netflix and crying

  honest journaling > skipping it and wallowing

  spending quality time with valuable people around you > overthinking about something/someone

• After 7 days you will see what showing up for yourself does for you.

• And ultimately you end up giving yourself all those feelings we were talking about - love, comfort, satisfaction.

• Then you can grow from there (perhaps a topic for another day)

Until we meet again, take care of yourself! For more on lifestyle, productivity and mental clarity, follow @pranotihere on X or LinkedIn

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